There are no words that could ever express how I feel.
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Early 2006:
Please excuse my reticence at this time for not writing anything. There is much to say about my son. There is much to say, which reflects totally of his goodness and uniqueness. He was and is a very special individual. Perhaps he was too good for this world and needed to be in a better place. Not one day goes by when all I want is just to be with him. I love you, Matthew, and I miss you so much.
Other than a recording where he states only his name for a cell phone message, this is the only other vocal record I have of Matthew. It is an edited version of him reading an excerpt from Macbeth:
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Sometimes when I listen to a particular song I think of Matthew. In a few instances I take that song and using ‘GarageBand’ or “Pro Tools LE’ I create a musical composition that incorporates Matthew’s Macbeth script, or sometimes it’s just the music with added features that are reminiscent of my son, or how I feel about his passing. Here are two of them:
Matthew - Sunspot
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Where Is Matthew?
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Matthew Robert Belfiglio
Born: March 11, 1986 Died: January 27, 2006 Of Natural Causes Of The Heart
Beloved Son, Brother, Friend Always With Us Without End Together Our Family Forever
Suddenly of natural causes while at his work on Friday, January 27th, 2006, Matthew Robert Belfiglio at 19 years of age. Cherished son of Paul Anthony Belfiglio and Anne Gosling. Beloved brother of Lisa Anne King, Marie Caroline Haskett, Emily Jean Belfiglio, David Anthony Belfiglio, Benjamin Paul Belfiglio, and Heather Anne Belfiglio. Loving uncle of Helena, Morganne, Ethan and Emily. Dear grandson of Ida ”Edith“ Caroline Belfiglio and the late Anthony ”Tony“ Belfiglio, and Helen Kadaja and the late Ulo Kadaja. A Funeral Service will be held at The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, Burnham St. N., Cobourg, on Wednesday, February 1st, 2006 at 11 am. Interment at Cobourg Union Cemetery. Visitation to be held at MacCoubrey Funeral Home, 30 King St. E. in Cobourg on Tuesday, January 31, 2006 from 2-4 and 7-9 pm. As Matthew was preparing to serve a mission for his church, memorial contributions by cheque to the Missionary Fund of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints would be appreciated by the family. Condolences received at www.maccoubrey.com
In Memory of Matthew January 27, 2009
It has been three years since Matthew’s death. Sometimes it seems like a long time ago and sometimes it seems as if it just happened.
According to CIA data estimates there were 6,706,993,152 people on the earth in 2008. There were also 20.18 births and 8.23 deaths for every 1,000 population.
This means that every second in the world a little more than 4 people are born and a little less than 2 people die.
4, 8, 12, 16, 20, 24, on and on and on. A little more than 4 births every second, 257 every minute, 15,420 every hour, 370,080 every day, or according to CIA data estimates, 135,347,122 every year.
And deaths? 2, 4, 6, 8, 10 12, on and on and on. A little less than 2 deaths every second, 120 every minute, 7,200 every hour, 172,800 every day, or 55,198,553 every year, again according to CIA data estimates.
I don’t believe in reincarnation, but rather I believe that everyone came from a never-before-born, pre-earthly place of existence that is separate from the place where people go when they die after they have been born into this world. And the place where I believe everyone goes after their death is what can be referred to as ”the spirit world.“ And it must be a busy place.
Picture in your mind the earth as if you were out in space looking at the night side of it. Imagine also, that on this particular night there are no clouds and remember, you are looking at this half of the earth -- the earth at night. What do you see? You see the lights of the all the cities and towns and the outline of the coastlines illuminated by many of these urban centers contrasting with the dark oceans showing only scattered lights on the various islands. But imagine that you also see death happening on this side of the world -- this half. Can you imagine this? Being that about two deaths occur every second, but because we are looking at only half of the world, imagine that every time someone dies we see a burst of light somewhere on the earth’s surface, or perhaps a shaft of light shooting up into space EVERY SECOND.
A second is very rhythmic -- one, two, three, four, or tap, tap, tap, tap, or twice a second -- one-two, three-four, five-six, seven-eight, tap-tap, tap-tap, tap-tap, tap-tap, or in this case bursts or shafts of light -- poof-poof, poof-poof, poof-poof, poof-poof. Every second two people on this earth, poof-poof, poof-poof, poof-poof, are entering the spirit world, and on January 27, 2006 during one of those seconds that day one of those ”poofs“ was my Matthew. My Matthew was just one poof of poof-poof after poof-poof, that happened every second on January 27, 2006. No sooner had Matthew left us along with someone else, there were two more people gone, then two more, now four gone, then two more, now six. Matthew and five other people, gone in three short seconds.
It makes me wonder about the significance of anyone’s death, or perhaps insignificance. But Matthew isn’t just ”anyone.“ Matthew is my son. And not only my son, but a brother to his siblings and a dear friend to many others. Matthew is supremely significant, and I miss him very much. And when my ”second“ arrives -- the event of my ”poof,“ I will be with him again.
Matthew, you are always remembered, forever loved, and greatly missed.
